This one ties in a lot with my first commandment to Be Heather. I find it too easy to "examine" other people's lives and think that what I have and who I am is not enough because I don't have the same gifts/talents/possessions/blog/job/body that someone else does. Somehow I wind up thinking that I'm not good enough if I can't do exactly what someone else can do. This is precisely why I don't like talent shows. I always leave feeling like a big, stupid loser.
From that conclusion I'm thrown into a spiral of self-doubt, negative self-talk, all which causes me to question my self-worth. Obviously they are SO MUCH BETTER than I am and their life is PERFECT and I'm just a HOT MESS. Ugh. That is sad, huh? I hate when I do that because I just end up feeling utterly miserable. And really, who wants to be around someone who is constantly doubting themselves and doesn't have confidence in who they are? I don't. It's exhausting.
And vise versa I need to stop the self-righteous talk; it is also easy to "examine" someone else and think that you are SO MUCH BETTER than them because you are not doing such and such like they are. Comparison is a vicious cycle that never ends well.
I am working on loving myself for who I AM. When I start comparing myself with someone else I try to remind myself that God has uniquely created you to be you and me to be me. It is okay if I can't do exactly what you do, because God created me for something else. When I really think about it I bet God is really ashamed of me when I try to compare myself to others. He created ME. How hurtful it must be when I complain about how He made me. I try to recognize my negative self-talk, then tell myself what I like about being me and thank God for making me.
1. I like my creative side.
2. I like that I am a compassionate person.
3. I like my sense of style and fashion.
4. I like the value I place on relationships and my family.
5. I like that I can laugh easily.
What are 5 things you love about yourself?