On Friday Ashlee and I led a purity night for the 8th-12th grade girls at our church. We led a retreat 4 years ago when we were juniors in college home on spring break and were asked to do another event. Relationships and purity is something Ashlee and I are passionate about so we were excited to lead it. Ten young ladies came and we had a wonderful evening sharing our own stories and hearing their thoughts about purity and the women they want to become.
I strongly believe in purity and remaining abstinent until marriage. Through my own experiences and my friends’ experiences I am confident that sex is worth the wait. Most people think the only consequences are physical, like STDs or pregnancy, which are serious, but I’ve learned that there are also emotional and spiritual consequences that may not be as obvious and leave lasting scars on the heart.
Deciding to live a life of purity is a decision that no one can make for you. This choice does not just affect your dating life and relationships, but purity resonates in all aspects of your life. It is a process and we may stumble and fall, but we can pick ourselves up and do the next right thing.
For now I am a single young woman, who is waiting with “anticipatience” (both expectantly and patiently) for God’s timing for a husband. Until then I am learning what it means to be complete in Christ Jesus, because let’s face it, no one, no man, no woman, can complete us. As Marian Jordan said, “Marriage doesn’t make you happy, it just makes you married.” My heart is whole in Jesus. I hope everyone can find that joy and approval in God rather than people.
If you want to know more about the consequences of sex before marriage or what it means to live a life of purity, feel free to ask. I have nothing to hide and lots of resources to share.